Love Trips: The Queen Is Dead

What is your coping mechanism after a break-up? Check it out.

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=12541

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Self-Help

The last dose of love trips for 2006! Thank you all for reading and being incredibly supportive. Till next year...

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=11266

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Reading Between The Lines

Do you read between the lines? Find out on this week's "Love Trips".

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=10974

Sujeiry

Love Trips: A Simple "I Love You"

Saying "I love you"...simple?

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=10786

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Back Tracking

What happens when the past comes back? Find out on this weeks "Love Trips".

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=10519

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Conchita Parte Dos

Its Love Trip's 6 month anniversary! Wow, how time flies : ) Enjoy this column. We have a returning guest...

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=9451

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Sensing Change

Can you sense when a relationship is changing? Read on.

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=6687

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Blessed Intervention

Have you sought divine intervention?

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=6414

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Seeing Green

Envy, envy who do you think you are....check out how I deal with envy : )

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=5388

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Fear of Falling

What fears hold you back? Check out my new column.

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=4380

Sujeiry

Love Trips: Love En Espanol

As always, enjoy!

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=2528

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Love Trips: Telling Secrets

Can you keep your lovers secrets?

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=2351

Love Trips: Lights, Camera, "The Talk!"

How would you handle "the talk"? Check out my story...

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=1304

Love Trips: An Easy Prude

Column number four is up and running! Enjoy and pass it on : )

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=1155

Love Trips: Win My Heart

Here is the third column!

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=957

Love Trips: Joining The French

Heres the link. Enjoy!

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=765

The Debut of My Column "Love Trips"

My column is up and running! Heres the link:

http://www.migente.com/news/article.html?news_item_id=571

Pass on this email to ALL your friends, acquantainces, co-workers, family members...anyone who's breathing and literate! Lets make this a hit people! And be sure to post comments!


P.S. I am so excited!

Sujeiry

Migente Column Update

Just wanted to let you all know that my migente relationship column will be up and running by late April! I will send an email with the link when it launches and post the link onto the blog. It will be great!

Till then,

Sujeiry

Surprise, suprise...

I have some exciting news! “In the Words of a 20 Something” is going into early retirement due to upcoming projects. But don’t fret my pets. My relationship saga continues on migente.com. My first column will be posted Monday, April 17th ( I will send an email then with the link). For now it will be a biweekly column, but I am positive that with all your support and visits (lots of them I tell you!) the new column will become as successful as my blog.

I first began this blog to entertain the masses and to discipline myself as a writer. Then it became a form of therapy (for myself and maybe even some of you). It felt great to expose myself completely - my thoughts, feelings, and personality - and to work through some war wounds. It felt liberating to be so raw and open. I couldn’t have done this without my loyal and supportive readers. I want to thank you all and I hope you all continue reading on migente. There are also a few people I would like to thank individually:

Jason - Who would of thought an argument would have led to all of this? Again, thanks for helping me see the light.

Jessica - You published my first article and now this! You’re making all my professional goals come to fruition. Thank you, thank you, thank you. To future success and finally meeting!

Adayna - Thank you for Jessica’s email and for pushing me to make the connection. I may have to listen to you more : )

Perla - My number one defender! You've battled all the negative comments because you’re loyal and you love me.

Teresa - You’ve always said “follow your passion”. Your wise words are a big part of my success.

Joey - You believed in my creative talent and even compared me to a famous author. It felt wonderful. Thank you for the support.

"George" and "Ivan" - Thanks for the material and for not taking things personally. As for "Elijah", he can talk to the hand cause...well, you know.

I would like to finish by sharing two promises I’ve made for myself regarding romance: 1) I promise to settle with a man who accepts me in every way. Someone who will see my inner, not just my outer, beauty. 2) I promise I will no longer hold on to a finished relationship. If it's over, then it's over.

I have sent the promises into the universe. There’s no going back now! Continue reading and we will see how it all unfolds...

Sujeiry

The Good Lie

I consider myself to be a pretty good liar, and I owe it all to my sister Adriana, who at fourteen years old showed me what not to say or do during the act of lying. I watched in horror as mami asked Adriana why she had a tube of fuchsia pink lipstick, a black eyeliner pencil, and black mascara. Adriana dodged mami’s stare and lied; explained that the make-up mami found in her book bag was a friend’s and that she hadn’t worn any. Mami paused and Adriana and I watched as her expression changed from angry to hesitant. Adriana’s confidence – a crucial factor when lying – wavered. She suddenly began to cry, providing mami with incriminating evidence – mascara stained cheeks.

I realized that in order to survive mami’s strict rules I would need to master the art of lying. I began to practice immediately, diving into the pool of small lies first. At age twelve I told mami I had finished my homework when in fact I had done the homework in class. At age thirteen I skipped Academic Bowl practice to go to the Art Club instead. I felt like a mastermind and soon began to dive into twelve feet. At sixteen years old I greeted mami while drunk, stating I was simply tired. I waved hello while maintaining my balance and my distance, then shut myself in the bathroom and brushed my teeth three times. At eighteen mami found a carton of cigarettes lying on top of a birthday gift. I told her the cigarettes were a friend’s, assured her I had never smoked, and then added: Why would I leave the carton of cigarettes out if I were hiding them from you? Simply brilliant.

Now that I am older, I am honest. But from time to time my mind wanders to the image of mami clenching Adriana’s make-up and lying seems safer. That's exactly how I felt about the situation with Ivan but even still I decided to come clean. The next day after we kissed I stood in the middle of his living room, rattling on and attempting to express myself, while Ivan starred at me and smiled. He wasn’t sure what to make of my freak out so he walked over to me, grabbed me by the waist, and kissed me. I kissed him back and couldn’t bring myself to tell him the truth.

A few days later, I decided to try again. I picked up my cell phone and returned Ivan’s call. My heart beat quickened with every ring. Ivan answered the telephone, we chatted for a few minutes, and then I began my spiel.

“I’m having a really hard time with everything,” I said.

That’s not a lie.

“I think you’re stressing yourself out without needing to,” he replied.

I paused and thought of the right words to make him understand. I couldn't find any.

“I’m just confused because I think I still have feelings for my ex.”

That’s not necessarily a lie.

“Last time you were here you freaked out a little bit, but then you were fine. You’re making a big deal out of nothing. It’s all in you head,” Ivan said.

I began to pace and weigh my options. The truth was he wasn’t accepting my explanations. The truth was I couldn’t tell him the truth. I summoned my inner liar and jumped into the deep end.

“You know what. You’re right. It is me. I’m really messed up because of Elijah. I just haven’t been able to move on. I can’t see myself with anyone right now. I just want to be alone…” I continued.

“So you’re basically waiting for this guy until he decides to be with you, if he ever decides to be with you again?” he asked.

I could sense his astonishment and annoyance but still continued spewing lies. I heard myself saying yes, that I was willing to wait. I painted myself as a woman in denial and somewhat of a masochist, all for the sake of sparing his feelings and sparing myself feelings of discomfort. I preferred to taint Ivan’s image of me than to taint his image of himself. I convinced myself it was a good lie because I had lied for the good of all.