Stripping My Way To Sanity

Dancing is like therapy. Instead of expressing my feelings while lying on a leather couch or sitting upright on a chair facing someone with a pleasant disposition, I pump my radio, shake my ass, and pretend I’m a stripper working a pole. I wiggle around, turn and twist and bounce. I loosen my hair and whip my long locks from side to side. I "Drop It like It's Hot" to maintain my sanity.

After Elijah’s sudden and shocking disappearance, I was in desperate need of dance therapy. I flipped through my CD case and slid the Christina Aguilera CD out of its pocket. I blew away the dust from the silvery backing and placed Stripped in position. The sound of drums, violins, and electric guitars from Christina Aguilera’s "Make Over" blared from my mini-speakers. My hips shimmied as the rhythm quickened. The violins came together in crescendo and I attempted to choreograph a routine. My long legs ran in place, like Jennifer Beals in Flashdance. My feet slid across the carpeted floor in honor of Michael Jackson. My shoulders pumped and popped like that of cute little boys and girls in rap videos. I then picked up my hair brush and it magically transformed into a diamond-studded, surround-sound microphone. I began to sing with Christina like we were a perfect duet: So sick and tired of being so misused/You’re taking me down with all your mental abuse/And I said, I gotta get you outta my head.

"Make Over" was soon over but I was still left with negative emotions. There was a lot more therapy to be done so I picked up my cell and made plans to go "Shake My Bon Bon" at Shampoo.

I arrived at Shampoo nightclub in Philadelphia with my friend Dana and three other girls. I rushed in, trampling and scuffing the shiny wooden dance floor with my high heels, and positioned myself by one loud speaker. The girls followed my lead and we began to dance. One of my favorite house songs soon played: Down, down, down, down, down. I lifted myself onto a small platform and brought my ass down as the song commanded. While I danced above the rest, my eyes scanned the darkened space. In between flashes of blue and green strobe lights, I spotted a very sexy man – the bartender – and was suddenly thirsty. I stepped off the platform and walked over to the bar. I watched him as he filled a cup with ice, then vodka, then tonic.

“Hi. Can I have a rum and coke please?”

He looked over at me and exposed a beautiful set of straight, white teeth. He turned around while picking up a bottle of Bacardi and I faced his nice, grabbable ass. He poured my drink and his muscles flexed.

“You’re Latino, right?” I asked.

“Yeah, I’m Venezuelan and Columbian. How did you know?” he replied.

“Cause I’ve perfected the skill of targeting my own kind,” I replied with a smile.

He laughed and handed me my rum and coke.

“The drinks on me, and I’m Alejandro by the way,” he said while giving me his hand.

I shook his hand and introduced myself before taking my first sip.

“Where are you from?” he asked.

“I’m Dominican, from New York. But I’m here for school. I go to Rowan University in Glassboro.”

“I go to Rutgers in Camden,” he responded.

“Really? I work in Camden. You should take me out to lunch some time.”

The words spilled from my mouth. I was shocked by my boldness, and even more so, by my willingness to move on and put Elijah behind me. It seemed the therapy was working. Alejandro grabbed a white napkin from a stack, picked up a pen from the register, wrote his name and number down, and handed me the napkin.

“Call me. I would love to take you out to lunch,” he said.

I nodded and planted a soft kiss on his cheek before walking away. I went back to Dana and her friends, who were all spread across the platform. "Hollaback Girl" was blasting from the speakers. The floor vibrated as the crowd jumped with the rhythms. I jumped onto the platform and began to perform all my dance moves. One by one, every other girl cleared the platform. I commanded the audience. I took control, released my sorrow, and soothed my soul. I danced song after song, grinding my body onto the wall behind me as if it were my very own stripper pole.

Welcome to La La Land, USA!

I once was a resident of La La Land, USA. I lived in a cozy studio apartment, decorated with framed photos and memories of past boyfriend’s. Red paper hearts covered the white walls. The one birthday card my ex-boyfriend Cole gave me, signed from me and my boys, stood atop my entertainment center. And I set a statue of Cupid and a gray porcelain elephant next to the birthday card for luck.

Besides the occasional appearance of Conchita, a trying game of Limbo, and a few ghosts, living in La La Land was pretty uneventful. Even still La La Land was overflowing with residents. My friend Laura joined the town on the night of her 26th birthday celebration. Laura’s boyfriend stood tall, ogling me between swigs. I avoided his nonverbal advances and watched Laura beam as she kissed him. It was official. Laura would pack her bags and become my neighbor that very night.

I was persuaded to leave Laura and La La Land two weeks after Elijah and I had our sexual encounter. This retreat is just temporary! I exclaimed before joining my friends in Glassboro, New Jersey. We were going to dance the night away at the happening club, The Spot, where Elijah also frequented. I walked in and scanned the small room. Young college boys stood by the bar, taking advantage of the “two-dollar you-call-it” drinks, while white sorority girls danced to their own rhythm and rubbed against one another in their temporary state of drunken lesbianism. The music pumped from the speakers as my friends and I made our way to the dance floor. My hips swung and my ass gyrated as I sang along to Don’t Cha. I jiggled and shook what my momma gave me, my arms raised in celebration. The song came to an end and I spotted Noel, Elijah’s friend, standing by the door in his black two-piece Bouncer uniform. He smiled and waved me over.

“Hey girl, long time no see,” said Noel as he gave me a hug.

“Yeah I haven’t been going out much, just been at home lately,” I replied.

He took a step back and smiled.

“Have you talked to Elijah lately?” he asked.

I paused, wondered if he knew Elijah and I had reunited two weeks prior.

“Yeah actually. We just hung out.”

“Oh wow, I didn’t know you guys were cool like that still. So what? Are you back together?” Noel asked.

The question circled my thoughts. Are we back together? Well, we’re not apart. But we haven’t talked about us. But he did tell me he missed me. I looked away, confused.

“Hey, it’s alright. I know how it is. You guys are hanging out, you know, doing your thing...,” said Noel.

My jaw dropped. I knew what he meant. He was labeling Elijah as my booty buddy, or was it the other way around? I felt the need to explain.

“No, it’s not like that at all. Elijah knows me better than that. He knows that I’m a relationship girl. Besides he cares about me too much to put me in that situation.”

“Oh he cares. He definitely cares,” replied Noel with a tinge of sarcasm.

I remained silent, secretly wishing I had stayed in La La Land.

“Just be careful. You may think this is one thing and it can be something completely different for him.”

I smiled half-heartedly, thanked Noel for his concern, and danced my way through the drunken and clueless crowd. I went back to La La Land that very night and had a great nights rest.

A week later Elijah called and promised he would come for a visit. I waited up till two in the morning but he never showed. I tossed and turned till four in the morning but he never called. The next morning I left Elijah a message, demanding better treatment, respect, and to be placed as a priority on his list. Elijah never returned my call. I packed my bags and terminated the lease of my studio apartment immediately. I left La La Land, USA to start a new life in the beautiful town of Reality Check.

Staying Cool

I have always known the importance of being cool. Just to be cool I confronted Grace the Grape after she had spread rumors that my family bathed with pigs. I walked over to her with my miniature but intimidating posse, shook my seven-year-old neck like a snake, and pinched her left cheek till her olive skin turned grape. I left Grace in tears, my posse behind me, and I was so cool. I also dethroned Linda, the new girl in my sixth grade class, in the name of coolness. In the middle of lunch I asked my new posse to cast their votes. Raise your hand if you like me, I asked. Six hands were raised, including mine and Linda’s. Raise your hand if you hate Linda. Five hands were raised, minus Linda’s. She never sat with us at lunch again and I was totally cool. And I can’t forget how many cool points I earned when I spotted my high school boyfriend leaving his dormitory with another girl. Instead of pulling her hair out and coloring his pale cheek red, I pretended to be unaffected, waved and smiled. I walked away and I was cooler than cool.

My capacity to stay cool was of the utmost importance when Elijah and I reunited. I had to show him I looked great, felt great, and was great, without him. It was a Monday night. My stomach churned as I waited for the buzz of my doorbell to indicate his arrival. I began to adjust myself on the coach – legs crossed, legs uncrossed, legs crossed – when there was a knock, not a buzz, on my door. My heart pounded as I uncrossed my legs and walked toward the knock. My clammy hands twisted the lock, unchained the chain, clenched the golden knob and opened the door. There he was – tall, dark and handsome – and there I was – jittery, clammy, but still cool. I took a step back and waved him in. Elijah then wrapped his arms around me in an embrace. I turned my face to prevent him from kissing my lips, pecked his cheek, and let go.

“You look beautiful,” he said.

“Thanks,” I replied. “Come on, sit down.”

Elijah walked over to my loveseat, took a seat, and stretched out on the couch. I sat a few inches away, facing him.

“Come here and give me another hug,” he said.

I obliged, leaned over and held him for as long as I could without loosing my cool.

“God I haven’t seen you in so long,” he said as I let go.

I nodded and smiled, as he traced the curves of my face, my breasts, and my legs with his eyes. My legs shook. My hands were clammier. I felt my coolness slipping, transforming itself into a blend of giddiness and cheesiness.

For an hour, we sat on the coach and spoke of classes, schedules, and work. I refused to react when his hand brushed mine, when he rested his warm hand on my thigh, when he said he had to get going. We stood by the open door, my hand on the lock and his hand on my waist, and I knew what was coming. Elijah held me tight; my chest pressed against his chest. My breathe quickened. My body struggled. I have to pull away. I twisted my neck, looked away from his hypnotic gaze and faced the open door. His arms remained around my waist.

“Can I kiss you?” Elijah asked.

My eyes darted from the door to his eyes and then back to the door. I wanted him to kiss me, but then he would know I still cared.

“I don’t know. I don’t think it’s a good idea. I don’t know – “

“If you don’t want me to kiss you then I won’t,” Elijah replied.

His arms loosened their grip.

“It’s not that I don’t want you to, is just that, I don’t know if it should happen because of everything…”

Elijah picked me up and kissed me. We kissed, and kissed, and kissed, just like before. We went to my bedroom and made love, just like before. I had lost the battle, lost my throne, and was indeed affected. I was so not cool.

Little Debbie and Elijah

I usually receive what I want when I am no longer looking for it. Just recently I wanted to treat myself to my favorite treat, a Brownie Obsession, when I opened mami’s freezer and spotted a pint of Vanilla Häagen Dazs ice cream. There was only one ingredient missing - a Little Debbie chocolate and macadamia covered brownie – so I decided to venture to the bodega to find the missing half of the Obsession. When I entered the bodega on 190th and Audubon, I walked straight to the snack cart located in the main isle and spotted Hostess cakes, Twinkies, the crackers with the cheddar cheese on the side, and packs of chocolate chip cookies. I lifted a box, saw some Nutty Bars, but did not find my Little Debbie. I rummaged through a few more cardboard boxes, was relieved they still made Chocodiles, but did not find my Little Debbie. I looked through the potato chip bin, grabbed a bag of BBQ chips, but did not find my Little Debbie.

My short trip soon transformed into a twenty-minute scavenger hunt. I visited four bodegas, searching for my brownie underneath cartons and in between metal crates, muttering vulgarities under my breath, and lecturing the owners who sat behind their registers about the importance of restocking. I finally decided to go home empty handed after having walked a three block radius. I was forced to forget my obsession and abandon my quest.

Two days later, I arrived at my apartment in South Jersey. I opened up the refrigerator and spotted a brown paper bag on the last shelf. I picked up the bag, peeked inside, and found half of a Little Debbie. It was just enough for a single serving of a Brownie Obsession, even though I had forgotten my initial craving.

The same scenario occurred with Elijah. After a month of unreturned calls, I had given up on my obsession and wanted to begin dating again. Then I received an email from him. It read: Call me. I don't have your number. I stared at the screen, moved the arrow over the Reply button but closed the message instead.

Two days after receiving the email I caved and decided to call Elijah. I muted my television set, picked up my cell, and thumbed through my cell phone’s directory. I scrolled passed the letter E three times but did not find his name and number. Then it hit me. I had deleted his phone number as the final step in my “moving on” process. In an attempt to visualize the ten digits that comprised his number, I closed my eyes. But I could only remember 609 - the area code. I stretched out on my sofa, wondering if I should abandon this quest, but decided to brainstorm instead. I’ll call Verizon. Or better yet, look through last month’s cell phone bill. I’m sure it’ll be there somewhere. And then I remembered the torn piece of notebook paper I kept in my shoe box of memories. Elijah had written his number on that scrap of paper when we first met and I still had it. I walked over to my closet, brought down the box and there it was. His name and number written in his messy handwriting. I grabbed my cell and made the call.

“Babe, you won’t believe what I was doing right now!”

The excitement in his voice surprised me. He spoke to me as if we were still a couple.

“What?” I asked.

“I was looking for the sheet of paper with your number right when you called.”

My eyes watered and I said:

“You know what they say, when you’re thinking of someone their thinking of you.”

“I guess you’re right. I didn’t think you were gonna to call. I emailed you a few days ago.”

“I know, but I’ve been busy.”

I lied. He paused for a second before replying.

“I just passed by Bozorth tonight since you always have your classes there to see if I would see you,” he said.

“I don’t have class on Wednesdays.”

Another pause before he said:

“Listen, I want to see you. Maybe I can pass by.”

I began pacing, searching for something to say.

“I’ll call you,” he said.

“Ok, call me.”

We said our goodbyes. I closed my cell and stretched back on my loveseat. I had received what I wanted when I least expected it, my Little Debbie and Elijah.